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If you are trapped in a conversation that you realize is not going to go anywhere, just be really honest with yourself. Think about that is your time, this is your chance and networking events are really dynamic and people stop and go stop and go all the time with all the other people in your room. Soif you want to be rude and really like, do what polite exit, I would say definitely thank the person for the contribution. Say something nice and kind, because of course they have spend a time to share something with you and, and then very honestly be Iike, “Okay, I think I have a person that I really want to go talk to and I need to leave in 30 minutes, so I don’t have much time. So do you mind if I just leave our conversation here for a second, this is my business card. If you really want to follow up with me, just feel free to message me and email me. Now I would really like to actually go share at points or opinions with that person or with someone else in the room.”
So if you feel like that you have to leave now because the situation is being super awkward or you feel almost like disappointed and annoyed, just use the very typical going to the toilet excuse going to grab a coffee excuse. Um, Again, you don’t have to talk with people that doesn’t allow you to actually reach your goal and it’s not bad. They’re not going to be hurting. Like, just feel very free to exit the situation, as soon as you need, as soon as you want.
And again, the networking opportunities and events are very dynamic, usually not all the time, but those spaces usually are pretty crowded. You can always be a very polite and be like, “Okay, excuse me for a second. I need to go to the restroom. I need a glass of water, or I need to make a call, sorry”. And then just very gently, move on. And I’m sure that people that attend networking events are really aware about the fact that there is always almost like a limited amount of time that everybody has to interact with others.
And this is really normal. You’re in a very normal context where these dynamics are really normal, so don’t feel guilty and don’t feel that you have to stay there forever or for any kind of reasons. So be dynamic, just flow with the situation as well, and try to really think of yourself and what you need and how you can achieve your goal. If there is someone else in the room that is more interesting, like, um, then the person that you’re talking to, just be very polite, very nice, but get out and move on to the next person. It’s not about having this chat machine, but you realize you know, from your intuition that a conversation is not really going anywhere.
So be smart and be intuitive. And if you realize that again, it’s totally fine. It’s not your fault. It’s not their fault. It’s just the flow. And so feel free to simply be honest with yourself and move on to the next group or the next person or take a break, drink something, grab a coffee, and then just just start again from another part of the room. It’s really important to understand that we are allowed to leave conversations that are not good for us, so they’re not interesting for usMake sure that this space we’re in is comfortable and strategic for our goal.
Of course, it’s not, as I say, it is not about being in a chat machine. But it’s important even on the business level, sometimes we encounter like people or situations that are not good for us, or they’re not really productive for us. And it’s important to train our ability to stop them or to say, okay, I can go up to that point and then I am allowed to leave and I’m not gonna feel guilty or it’s not going to be a bad thing. It’s really almost like a training for us to learn, to flow more with our intuition, flow more with our interests. It’s still like a good practice for ourselves as well to recognize where our energy is more attracted to and just simply go with that.
