Transcript
Having a positive self-image it’s a process: to learn to build up a positive self-image. Every woman is like a different point of this scale at how good or bad her self-image is and this is nothing to be ashamed of, even when your self-image is really bad. You might not feel good about it, which is understandable, but just be ok with where you are right now and then you can start a process of making your self-image better. This is something you can actively do by getting to know yourself: What are my weaknesses? What are my strengths and what are my capabilities? So the better you know yourself – also your weaknesses – the higher are the chances that you can accept all these facets of your personality. I think the next step is loving yourself but the first step would be accepting yourself. Then you can go on with the process and start to make it even better your self-image, to really start to like yourself. And when your self-image is really good then you have a lot of good feelings during your day and you will be more relaxed, your relationships will flourish. Give yourself the time which is needed because it’s a lifetime project. You don’t do it with one freebie you download from any coach. It’s something you constantly work on and you can do it in a relaxed way, not stressing you out. Just relax and try to honour yourself for what you achieved and for where you are right now.
The better your self-image is, the more confident you will feel. The enemy is most of the times in our heads, it’s not on the outside, people telling us rude stuff, it’s more that we tend to interpret things that people say in a rude way and then we lack self-confidence. For me, it was really helpful to line out in which situations I really like myself. For example, when I’m playing with children I’m really in the moment, I really like how I am with children. So I was writing down, playing with children. There are a lot of situations when you look at your life where you feel really good about yourself. So just write them down and get in touch with these situations. Think about them. Recall the feelings you had in the situation. What is also really important as a tool is to heal your old wounds from childhood, from the past. More or less, we all have scars and wounds. It’s really good to have a vision for your life and a mission which is driving you, but our subconscious mind is full with [of]these wounds. It’s good to look back to be supported by a person who is encouraging you, helping you to look back in a constructive way and to heal this stuff in order that you have your full power to go forward. Because otherwise, you will block yourself all the time because these negative thoughts which were produced in your childhood, they would come up again and again. “Okay. I’m not good enough, I’m not smart enough, I’m not whatever enough”. For me, it was life-changing to work on these thoughts and to actually know that they are not true. So I now know I’m an intelligent woman. I’m 34 now, I did not know this for 32 years of my life. I just had no connection to this aspect of myself. There are a lot of boundaries, which I would not have crossed if I would still have this thought in my mind. So, focus on your good stuff and heal your old wounds.