Deal with Negative Beliefs around Pregnancy & Motherhood

In society, general and in your private environment, you might notice a lot of unspoken or outspoken expectations and beliefs when it comes to your pregnancy or to your motherhood. For example, Expectations like, your child must always be priority or expectations and beliefs like you do not have to make a career, just concentrate on your child. And on the other side, of course you must pursue your career, do not make any compromises. Or of course, you can have it all. Like a family, fulfilling business, a great look, sex life and so on. And on the other side beliefs like it’s impossible to have it all, just don’t even try it. 

Okay, how to react to those beliefs? First of all, all of those beliefs are kind of intimidating and intrusive. And what I noticed is that those beliefs often don’t remain unspoken. No, they are outspoken. They are mentioned directly in your face and this is what makes them so intimidating and so intrusive, because often you get advice from people, although you did not ask for advice or their opinion and they overstep your personal boundaries and often it’s so hard to react to that because, the people that are giving you these advices are often family members or friends and of course, you want to make sure that you feel comfortable with them and that you have a good relationship with them.

First, keep in mind that you are allowed to find your own way of pregnancy, your own way of being a mom and your own way of being a mompreneur and give yourself this allowance because you are the real expert and this is the only thing that matters. Exclamation point. 

Second, if you are confronted with like a belief or an advice or an opinion from another person, you can always decide whether it is something that you want to think or talk about. So take a deep breath and decide this is something I want to talk about, or even think about. 

If you, and this is third, decide no, it’s not something I want to talk about right now or even think about, you can just let it go and take a deep breath and say, OK. Or you can, of course, make it clear that the other person just overstepped your personal boundary and that you did not ask for any advice at all. Of course, in a friendly way. But even in an unfriendly way, it’s always totally fine. It is your right to do it. 

Four, if you decide OK, this opinion might be interesting, this advice might be helpful, and I want to talk about it. I want you to think about it, then you really have  the opportunity to learn something out of it.