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I think maintaining it is incredibly important because when you start growing a business and all of a sudden it takes off and it becomes super successful, as I said in the first place, you know, why am I doing all of this? So if you’re doing it to fulfill a certain requirement or a mission, or even to really, you know, solve some biggest world’s problems, however big your dreams are, it starts with you having the energy and the time to invest in it. So if you start trading the success of business for the success of your private life and your private wealth, personal wellbeing, then you will pay the price. And the sad thing is you will pay the price on both fronts. Your business will go down and your personal side of things will also not really flourish. So I think the question always has to be, am I doing this for the right reasons, whatever I’m doing, am I doing it in the right amount of time or am I putting some artificial pressure on myself? Am I doing it with the right resources? So do I have time for myself to feed myself well, to sleep enough, to take care of my hobbies, friends, family, whatever matters. And do I still feel content with my role as a working mom?
And if I don’t do, or there’s the slightest nudge that something is going wrong, or I feel out of that balance so out of that equation, then I have to look into it. The only thing you have is yourself and the only power and strength that you can draw upon is within you. And the question really is what is it worth maintaining that. The minute you start compromising on yourself and not drawing back on it regularly and say: I am important, I have to be okay, I have to be okay with the choices I’m making, but I also have to be okay with the performance during those times, then nothing else really matters if you don’t have that energy. I’ve learned to be super disciplined with myself and with my body and with my family. So when I need timeout, I will ask for it and I will demand it even if necessary.
The same goes in business. If something doesn’t work at work and I feel like this is going the wrong direction, I don’t like working with this client anymore, then I do take a night’s sleep. I do take some break, but if I still feel the same the next morning, I will take action. And I have defined a few ways, you know, for myself, how to deal with that, you will find your own. But the challenge really is am I even taking the time to discover how I am doing and how I am feeling at any point in time.
You might have certain rituals for that. I’ve seen a lot of people being able to meditate on a day to day basis. This is when they wind down and then discuss those things with themselves. There is others that go away once a year, they go into a spa or into a retreat. And this is where they, you know, recharge and refuel and do all of this.
But I would also say, take some of the daily nuggets integrate it in your business, have those conversations with your team, have those conversations with your clients. They don’t always have to be hard or dry or boring. I take people for a drink and say, how’s our business relationship going, by the way? You know, this is something I’ve seen work out over the last three months. I feel we could accelerate. How do you feel? Talk about feelings at work. That is okay. It is human. It is totally fine. But at the same time, be really really serious with yourself. If you’re committed to business, then be committed all in, all consequences. It’s your playing field. You’re designing it. Be proud of what you’re doing. Don’t apologize, but don’t be this “I’m doing a little bit, but then I’m not happy and I’m not happy not being at home and I’m not happy being a working mom. And I’m not happy with this, that any other, but I have to because I have to earn the money”. Stop for a moment and ask yourself, is that the best path I can be on? Do I have the right people around me? Do I have the right environment, the right support? And if I don’t and I still have the energy to go for it, then I will work it out and find the support and find the ecosystem and find the culture and the societal conditions that I will need.
But the minute I discover, actually it is too hard for me. I really don’t want to go that way. That is okay, too. But then drop it, drop the business side of things or drop the family parts side of things if there are some things that you feel that are not serving you. But if you don’t take care of yourself and you don’t take care of yourself regularly and take stock, then nothing else really matters.
And again, there might be a day – that will come – that you will look back and regret that you didn’t take care of your body. You didn’t take care of your sleep. You didn’t take care of your mental wellbeing. And all of a sudden it will get very dark. I’ve seen people in that space. I’ve been close enough myself. I wouldn’t recommend it. And it is certainly hard to get out of it once you are feeling darkness coming around you. So I would really encourage you: do take stock. Take the time with yourself, just like you would do business review a regular one, do a self-review. Am I still on the right track? Does this matter to me? Does it matter enough to put the time in? And if it does, do it with your whole heart and your whole commitment. If it doesn’t, find ways to get rid of it. Do take stock my, my big plea and look well after yourselves, it’s worth every single moment you do.
