Why Small Talk is THE Tool for You as an Introvert Female Founder
Small talk is a form of conversation deeply associated with extroverted people who never have to spend a minute thinking about a topic worth opening y…
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Let me tell you a bit about my story. Although I have always been introverted (not shy) and
highly sensitive, I was an eager talker as a child. Not afraid to speak my mind among children or adults. In my teens I made a 180 and changed completely: The always talking girl became rather quiet and had difficulties finding topics to talk to strangers or within an unfamiliar environment.
Difficult to cope with, even more so, if you were used to a different behavior that you used to have. It did not get better when studying and having my first job interviews. As a tutor I was working many years in changing environments and had to meet and adapt to
many different people. Small talk was basically required as part of my work.
I severely disliked small talk and was bad at networking. That was the moment when I realized
that not only as an introvert solopreneur, you cannot afford to skip small talk as the entrance door to networking.
Having all those thoughts, how to start, what to say and how to leave a conversation, bothered me.
Thus I started to develop a method which helped me to get along with small talk, comprising all my difficulties. I called it the E-F-E Small Talk method. E standing for entry, which means to be
able to start the talk when, where and with whom you want. F standing for flow, avoiding
awkward silence and keeping up the conversation with deep and interesting topics. Finally, E for exit - you should be able to leave without qualms when you feel everything has been said. Leave, without having wasted a contact worthwhile keeping.
This method was meant to help only me with my challenge. But very soon I learned that it was
not only me who needed to improve her small talk skills. It was a whole community of introvert ladies.
So here are three fundamental tips on how to improve your small talk, make it interesting and actually use it as a tool.
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